reminders for myself

once again from the title, this page is in no way attempting to give out advice or to directly help out others. it is primarily for myself. if you happen to find anything here useful, that's great, friend =) ! but once again, i must reiterate that im not an expert by any means on these types of things discussed here

guides

the subsections below are guides for myself to look back to / reflect on when i need to

apologies

a good apology:

takes responsibility

acknowledges impact

doesnt minimize the hurtful behavior

doesnt focus on intent

doesnt include the word "but"

makes every effort to not repeat the hurtful behavior

homestuff

duncan (balrogboogie@rage.love) said on Prickle-Prickle, 38th of Confusion, YOLD 3187:

> @cadadr my wife's grandma had a little sign in her kitchen that said "my house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy" and I think that's the perfect attitude to housekeeping