Holding that in with your spouse will be challenging, but you're probably wise to not get into it right at this moment. After being very involved in an evangelical fundamentalist community myself for most of my life, i deconstructed privately over the course of several years. I was fortunate that my wife and I were on similar paths so there was never conflict there, but no one else in my extended family really knows the extent to which I disengaged from the faith. (To be clear, my deconstruction went from "staff member in a small church" to somewhere in the "atheist / agnostic / whatever works for you, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else" zone. Very few people know anything about my "faith journey" beyond a few years of saying "I'm just not looking for a church community right now".

Hit me up if you want someone to talk to one-to-one. I started blogging and posting ti places like this anonymously so I would have somewhere to be honest about my deconstruction and connect with others.

And because I'm a giant nerd.

ropocl at proton dot me

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~kyle wrote:

Hi ~ropocl,

I can relate. I'd like to speak honestly about this with my wife, eventually, as well as with those few people that really matter to me. There are some people who I can't be honest with, even if I would like to. Doing so would be detrimental.

Thanks for your offer!

I hope I can find some moment to write you, even though I'm really snowed under these days :-/