< Work, Life, and Love

~eaplmx

I like to work for many, many hours (and I've reduced my working time because of overworking, stress and some random stuff in the past). Maybe 6 hours a day in my main activity, a few more in personal projects, studying on Saturdays, reading about my profession as often as possible and such.

It connects with me the idea of doing something for free. Luckily I can do now what I love (making video games and board games) with some buffer to fail, although sometimes I have to pay bills, and I don't know how to create more money than I need.

And it's similar with my partner, she works as little as possible, for her is a mean not a goal. It was even a difficult part of our marriage, having different styles, different goals, and different lifestyles in general.

And for the TV... She loves to watch it! I don't hate it, but I prefer to do something else, to work, create stuff, or if I'm watching a movie I want to take my full attention into it, really enjoying what I feel or watch to.

I don't know if your habits are bad. What I know is that your hobbies couldn't be your work, as they transform into something else.

There is a book that I like so much "Predictably Irrational"

The chapter: Being Paid vs. A Friendly Favor, was a great insight to me about how when money is involved everything changes.

So for me I can enjoy my work so much, but it's in the Work headspace, and my hobbies are my place where I can do the same thing, but without any need for money, tight schedules, a public or even useful restrictions. But's that's me, maybe I even need to look for different hobbies not related with my work. Just a thought.

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~tetris wrote (thread):

> What I know is that your hobbies couldn't be your work, as they transform into something else.

I read this sentence a few times as I couldn't quite understand it, but I think I get it now:

If my work goes badly, then I have no other hobby to fall back on and it will likely have a large impact on my happiness; if I have multiple independent hobbies, then if one goes badly I have others I can fall back on.

With this mindset, I see now that I probably should strive to derive my happiness from elsewhere, instead of one large overarching thing in my life.

Thanks for the reply