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I'm not going to say you shouldn't care what other people think, but as somebody who grew up before internet and dealt with a shitload of bullying as a kid: if I had lent too much credence to what other people thought I would have been a teenage suicide.

However, I post rants about sex and politics on my own website under my "real name", with appropriate content warnings, because I'm not willing to live in fear.

I post stuff like this partly because I'm writing from the heart, and partly as an act of defiance. If people want to censor me badly enough, they'll find a way. But I'll be damned if I'll do their work for them by self-censoring on a platform that I operate at my own expense—my personal website.

As for employers: the about page on my site plainly states that what I post on my site is my own opinion (unless attributed) and that I don't speak for my employers. Nor do I ever identify my current employer (if somebody wants to know badly enough, they can find out without my help).

However, these "controversial" posts are a test for employers: if you think you have the right to police my behavior outside the workplace and outside working hours, then I don't want to work for you. You don't pay me enough for that kind of totalitarian bullshit.

Oh, I recently talked to my daughter, who is almost 13, and said all these things. that if you have any questions, come to us, if you find out about toys, do not take nonsense, come to us, we will help you choose something good. a week after the conversation, she asked, how would you feel about me having a girlfriend? I replied, yes, even a bear, as long as the people are good. but in Russia, the situation is much worse than in the United States, although I must say the employer will never fire for the post, in this regard, we are much freer.

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